The Order of the Family
“But if you refuse to serve the Lord, then choose today whom you will serve. Would you prefer the gods your ancestors served beyond the Euphrates? Or will it be the gods of the Amorites in whose land you now live? But as for me and my family, we will serve the Lord.”
In our home we make God the center of our Family. We know with Him, we wouldn’t have any firm foundation. The Lord is our Rock!! and we are the Church, our little family, because Jesus is in our hearts, we are the lights in the world! We set this example by serving Him and shedding His light on friends and family who are willing to receive it and learn!
The family unit is so important! it looks something like this with Christ above us all
1 Timothy 5:8 says
But if anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially for members of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.
Paul directed his command in verse 4 toward people caring for members of ‘their own household.” While it may not be possible for one person to care for every relative, even unbelievers in Paul’s day understood that the members under the same household are to take care of each other. To provide for those who are completely dependent (children & the widowed) on them. Paul writes about the widowed mother, and the children to provide for the widowed mother.
Priorities of the Christian family unit
Deurteronomy 6:5 , “Love the LORD your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength.” All of one’s heart, soul, and strength is to be committed to loving God, making Him the first priority. Regular church attendance will be one way a family shows that God is first in their lives!
If you are married then your Spouse comes after God. Husbands are to love their wife as Christ loved the Church, and also the wife is to submit to her husband just as Christ submits to the Church. See Ephesians 5:22.
It is the responsibility of the Parents to raise up godly children to be the next generation to serve and love the Lord with all their hearts…Proverbs 22:6 says: Start children off on the way they should go, and even when they are old they will not turn from it.
Of course after this follows the parent, In the Bible it says to honor your parents, and children are to obey their parents (This applied to children, once they are adults they are to honor them, respect them, they are not obligated to obey them) Deuteronomy 5:16 : “Honor your father and your mother, as the Lord your God has commanded you, so that you may live long and that it may go well with you in the land the Lord your God is giving you. There is no age limit to honoring your parents, but it clearly says to the children to obey their parents.
The Purpose For All Family/ What God doesn’t Want
The family is supposed to provide the spiritual needs of its members, by doing so this is productive and useful for God and His work on earth as it is in heaven. Living a simple life and going with the flow is not God’s plan for any family. Spending things and time all for yourself and merely just focused on family is not God’s plan. Trying to keep a relationship—just to have the comfort of a relationship—is not God’s plan for any family. Manipulation and gossip amongst family is not God’s plan. It’s not even about enjoying each other’s company and having fun and good emotions, or any other obligations to feel like you owe other family members time, money or attention, that is not God’s plan or idea for family. Many families get dragged down in this way. As a matter of fact, that is the job of the enemy to tear families apart in such ways.
God’s desire is for the family is to provide each other spiritually and emotionally in the correct way to become mature human beings and serve the Lord. This is why the Apostle Paul used Marriage as an example of how a family is to behave holy and pure. This is the ultimate reason for forming a family. Anything that does not follow these principles that Jesus left behind for us to follow simply falls out of this.
There may be unfortunate circumstances in families, often beyond one person’s control, that stands in the way of the proper formation and functioning of a family, and in this case the individual person experiencing this or the household are to lean solely on God for Strength and support from their Church. A family who is focused with Christ above them is to serve the Lord and disciple sheep, not just church goers but exercising their God given abilities and talents. This actually applies to all who receive Christ in their hearts. To follow Christ and work alongside of those who also follow and serve God.
Here are two examples in the Bible that Jesus spoke to His own family as He was doing the will of God
Then Jesus’ mother and brothers arrived. Standing outside, they sent someone in to call him. A crowd was sitting around him, and they told him, “Your mother and brothers are outside looking for you.”
“Who are my mother and my brothers?” he asked.
Then he looked at those seated in a circle around him and said, “Here are my mother and my brothers! Whoever does God’s will is my brother and sister and mother.”
Every year his parents went to Jerusalem for the Feast of the Passover. When he was twelve years old, they went up to the Feast, according to the custom. After the Feast was over, while his parents were returning home, the boy Jesus stayed behind in Jerusalem, but they were unaware of it. Thinking he was in their company, they traveled on for a day. Then they began looking for him among their relatives and friends. When they did not find him, they went back to Jerusalem to look for him. 46After three days they found him in the temple courts, sitting among the teachers, listening to them and asking them questions. Everyone who heard him was amazed at his understanding and his answers. When his parents saw him, they were astonished. His mother said to him, “Son, why have you treated us like this? Your father and I have been anxiously searching for you.” “Why were you searching for me?” he asked. “Didn’t you know I had to be in my Father’s house?” But they did not understand what he was saying to them. Then he went down to Nazareth with them and was obedient to them. But his mother treasured all these things in her heart.
God’s Plan is so great for family, for all of us to know as individuals we are to serve and honor God. That the Husband is to lead their family, and the wife is to submit and help her husband and the children are to obey their parents. What a perfect example Jesus left behind for us to follow.
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xoxo – Yvonne Salas